L'illusion du moi ou le non-dualisme

En méditation, j'ai rencontré un concept abstrait, appelé l'illusion du moi, qui dit, en gros, ceci: tout le monde est uni, il n'y pas de toi, ni de moi, nous ne sommes qu'un. Un monde non-dualiste. Pour employer une métaphore cinématographique, pensez au film The Matrix...

OK. Pas évident, n'est-ce pas?

Hale le dit beaucoup mieux que moi, c'est pourquoi je me réfère encore une fois à son enseignement. Ses techniques de lâcher-prise sont vraiment puissantes, les avez-vous essayées?

Let's take a look at the illusion that there is actually a "you" that is separate from "me."

Part of what keeps the illusion of the separate individual alive and well is the belief that our thoughts, feelings, and experiences are actually attached to or referring to someone. 

Explore whether or not this is true. You can use the simple questions of either, "Is that attached to anything or anyone?" or "Is that actually referring to anything or anyone?" 

You can also allow yourself to explore whatever you are experiencing in this moment both internally and externally. You can simply notice that since you are noticing it you must be apart from it. 

You can use this form of questioning throughout your day whenever there is any sense of identification or when you simply want to stretch past the obvious.

Vous pouvez aussi vous référer à Un cours en miracle, dont ce question-réponse, même si je le trouve particulièrement obscur (ou que la traduction n'est pas fameuse).

Source de l'image: Truthless Truth

Le sabotage et les croyances

Hale Dwoskin envoie une newsletter tous les mois. Voici un extrait qui m'aide beaucoup:

Dear Hale,
I used to (a fraction of a second ago) have some beliefs (fear, sabotage). I could not let go of those beliefs, or they always came back. They mostly came back after I got some big releases on something else, and those releases on something else produced a vacuum attracting again sabotage or fear.
Thanks for your love and for your presence.
Love,
Jean-Yves 

And here’s my response... 

Dear Jean-Yves,
When you release it opens the door for greater peace and understanding. What you are interpreting as a vacuum is in fact the result from that opening for more feelings to arise which you can, of course, let go of as well.
Here is a process that can help:
"In this moment, could you welcome your belief or pattern of sabotaging yourself?"
"Could you welcome all the thoughts and feelings that arise with that belief?"
"Can you also welcome any desire to fix or change it or simply not have it?"
"Can you welcome any sense that that belief belongs to you, is about you or is who you are?"
"And can you also welcome that which needs no belief to be?"
Work through this a few times and watch the belief and pattern dissolve. This is an example of the Triple Welcoming process that is taught in our retreats.
Love,

Hale

Sa voix est tout simplement apaisante (voir les téléconférences).

La spiritualité et les enfants, c'est compatible?

Lorsque j'ai commencé mon processus de changement intérieur, la méditation m'a été d'une grande aide et l'est encore. Et quand j'ai voulu en parler à mes enfants, ça s'est fait naturellement. Je n'ai pas tenté de convaincre mon plus vieux de venir avec moi à une méditation dirigée. Je lui ai simplement dit ce que l'on faisait et ça lui a tenté, naturellement.

Mais parler de spiritualité à notre époque, c'est pas évident. J'en ai parlé autour de moi et on m'a référé à ce site.

Si vous n'êtes pas fait fort, oubliez ça. Si vous êtes un peu téméraire, lâchez-vous lousse.

Crédit photo: QUANTIK-ATTRACTION-SANTE

Prends-le pas personnel

Il y a de ces livres que l'on rencontre et qui nous marque. Pour moi, ce fut A path with heart de Kornfield. Un autre livre très populaire est The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom de Miguel Ruiz.

Sur Goodreads, j'ai trouvé beaucoup de citations intéressantes, mais si je n'avais qu'à en retenir une, ce serait celle-ci:


1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.

Les autres citations sont ici.

L'autocritique

Trop souvent, je suis critique envers moi-même. J'ai pas assez bien fait ceci, j'ai mal fait cela. Cette attitude se répercute aussi sur nos enfants. On est très exigeants envers eux qui, à leur tour, sont exigeants envers eux-mêmes, puis envers les autres, etc. Vous voyez où tout cela peut nous mener.

Aussi, pour remédier à cela, il m'arrive de penser que j'ai besoin d'aide extérieure, que quelqu'un peut m'aider, un ami, un psy, un orthopédagogue, whatever, alors que:

L'Abondance est déjà en moi, ici et maintenant.
Je reçois tout ce que je désire, tout ce dont j'ai besoin
Amour, Paix, Joie, Lumière, Santé, Prospérité
Et j'accepte que ce soit facile

C'est lors d'une méditation intense, récemment, qu'une amie m'a écrit ces phrases, et je les trouve tellement vraies, surtout la dernière: Et j'accepte que ce soit facile. Pourquoi ce serait compliqué, au juste? Parce que ça l'a été dans le passé? Le passé est terminé. Je vis dans le présent.

Essayez-le, ça coûte rien et ça change des vies.

Méditer avec son enfant

Quand j'ai commencé à méditer et que j'ai vu les effets que ça avait sur moi (calme, moins de pensées parasites, etc.), j'ai voulu en faire bénéficier mes enfants et je me suis demandé: est-ce qu'un enfant peut méditer? La réponse est oui, mais évidemment, il faut adapter la méditation selon l'âge.

Par exemple, avec mon plus grand, j'ai pratiqué les Pratiques avancées de yoga (Advanced Yoga Practices) mais avec mon plus jeune, ce n'était pas conseillé car trop intense.

J'ai fait des recherches et je suis tombé sur cet excellent livre d'Éline Snel, Calme et attentif comme une grenouille et, chanceux comme je suis, je l'ai trouvé à la librairie la plus proche!

Tout cela est arrivé en même temps que mon plus jeune avait de la difficulté à dormir. Il se plaignait qu'il y avait trop de bruit chez les voisins, qu'il entendait la télé, etc. Et dans le livre de Madame Snel, il y a justement une méditation sur le dodo. J'ai loué le livre à la bibliothèque, puis je l'ai acheté car il a eu un franc succès. Mais encore mieux: il y a un CD... et les pistes audio sont disponibles sur YouTube :)

Depuis, mon plus jeune écoute sa méditation sur son iPod avant de se coucher. C'est-y pas merveilleux?

Et si vous vous mentiez à vous-même?

Dans une récente newsletter, Hale Dwoskin traite de la résistance et des idées qu'on tente de dissimuler. Ça m'arrive souvent, ça vous arrive aussi. On n'a pas envie de faire quelque chose. On remet un truc à plus tard, etc.

On passe notre temps à vouloir fuir des obligations au lieu de simplement les accepter, les accueillir...

Bonne lecture!

Anytime you're "shoulding" on yourself for telling yourself you must do something, or you have to do something, then you're lying to yourself. 

I'm not suggesting that you abdicate from your responsibilities in life. It's the exact opposite.

When we feel like we have to do something, or we should do something, or we must do something, we resist it. 

We don't want to do it. 

And so we're at war over the simple things. Some of us wake up in the morning and because we should get out of bed, we don't want to. 

You may have even felt that way this morning. Or, have you ever felt really angry just because the alarm went off? And you're the one who set it the night before. And you're really angry at the clock. A lot of us are experiencing that throughout the day, every day, because we're resisting what is. 

Instead of just simply allowing what is to be, instead of simply embracing life, we're fighting life. We're at war with life. We're saying 'no' to what is as though it's going to change. 

But if you haven't noticed yet, the universe doesn't really care what you want. Now, I know you may believe that the universe is very interested in you. That's how most of us live. We live as though we're the center of the universe, as though the universe actually cares about us and who we are. But what you'll discover as you let go is, while the universe certainly isn't hostile, it's also not apart from you. So it's not something that you need to manipulate all your waking hours. 

Most of us, from the moment we wake up in the morning to when we go to bed at night, we're busy pushing and shoving against the world. 

And you wonder why we're exhausted. 

But again, it doesn't need to be that way. We all have this possibility right here, right now, to be free of all of that. 

-- Hale Dwoskin

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J'étais très réticent à écouter ces téléconférences... jusqu'à ce que je les écoute :-)

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Au sujet de Hale Dwoskin

Hale Dwoskin is the New York Times best-selling author of "The Sedona Method," and is featured in the movie, "Letting Go." He is the CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates, an organization that teaches courses based on the emotional releasing techniques inspired by his mentor, Lester Levenson. Hale is an international speaker and featured faculty member at Esalen and the Omega Institute. He is also one of the 24 featured teachers of the book and movie phenomenon, “The Secret,” as well as a founding member of The Transformational Leadership Council. For over three decades, he has regularly been teaching "The Sedona Method" to individuals and corporations throughout the United States and the United Kingdom, and has been leading coach trainings and advanced retreats since the early 1990s. He is also the co-author with Lester Levenson of "Happiness Is Free: And It’s Easier Than You Think!" (a five-book series).

Extrait du Huffington Post.

What if all of your problems are just memories?

Newsletter de Hale Dwoskin de la méthode Sedona (works wonders for me).

I'd like to challenge you to explore this question for yourself with one of your most cherished problems - that is, the one you think about a good deal of the time - and at least entertain the possibility that it is just a memory. 

The reason that problems appear to persist through time is that whenever they are not here in this moment, we go looking for them. That's right; we actually seek out our problems. 

This means we filter our experiences based on the belief that we have a particular problem and, here's the kicker, we unconsciously censor anything that does not support the belief that we have this problem, including the fact that the problem is not actually here now. 

For example, you may say, "See, I knew it. I never [fill in the blank]," or, "I always [fill in the blank]." For example, "I always mess up when there are people listening." Or, "I never know what to say to him." (This is a clue: when we use words like "I never" or "I always," we tend to grossly exaggerate the frequency that something is actually occurring because of our emotional attachment and miss the fact that the problem is not even here now.) This habit of filtering for our problems simply reinforces them and causes us to suffer. 

Try this exercise right now:

1. Think of a problem.

1. Now, ask yourself this question: "Could I allow myself to remember how I used to believe I had this problem?" This shift in consciousness may make you laugh, it may make you tingle inside or it may simply open the possibility in your awareness that yes, even this is just a memory.

1. Then ask yourself: "Would I like to change that from the past?" If the answer is yes, ask yourself: "Could I let go of wanting to change that from the past?" Now, this may seem counterintuitive, but when you want something, you are holding in mind that you do not have it. In other words, want equals lack. And the feeling of desire actually keeps what you want at bay. Check it out for yourself. Would you rather want a million dollars in the bank, or would you rather have it? Would you rather want to change your problem from the past, or would you rather change it? Now let go as best you can.

1. Ask yourself: "Just for now, could I let go of wanting to believe I have that problem again?" And then do your best to let it go.

If there's still some clinging to the memory of the problem in this moment, then repeat the steps from the beginning until you can fully let go. 

The next time you find yourself feeling challenged try this exercise with yourself. It will help you leave your problems where they belong, in the past, and open up your perception to the fresh new slate that exists for you, right now, in this moment.

When you use this simple but powerful process, I promise you the results will surprise and delight you. I have seen just this one process quickly and easily free people from painful, long-standing problems, problems that had been part of a person's experience for decades. 

We will explore this concept even further, as well as similar ideas, at the upcoming September Retreat. I hope that you will join me! 

For more information on the retreat, please visit this page:
www.Sedona.com/SeptemberRetreat2014 

Love,
Hale